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You are on the scale between avoidant and secure attachment, leaning towards avoidant.

Updated: May 20, 2023

You value self-sufficiency and independence in your relationships and may often prioritize your need for autonomy over building close connections with others. While you desire emotional connection and support, you may struggle with opening up and allowing yourself to be vulnerable, preferring to keep your partner at a distance.


Your fear of rejection may not be as strong as it is for someone with a more avoidant attachment style, but you still feel uncomfortable with too much intimacy and may struggle with expressing your emotions. Your partners may find you emotionally distant and feel frustrated with your tendency to prioritize your own needs over theirs.


In relationships, you are wary of your partner's attempts to control or encroach on your space and may feel uncomfortable when your boundaries are challenged. Overall, your attachment style leans more towards the avoidant end of the spectrum, characterized by a preference for independence and a tendency to keep emotional connections at arm's length


Establish healthier relationships as early as today:

Besides therapy, here are 3 ways in which the securely attached could establish healthier relationships as early as today:


Engaging in joint and external activities

Avoidantly attached individuals may feel overwhelmed or threatened by intense emotions or close relationships. By engaging in joint activities that provide a distraction, such as exercising or pursuing hobbies with your partner, you can reduce intimacy anxiety and form a healthier relationship.


Gratitude list

Practicing gratitude can help to shift your focus from negative thoughts and emotions about your relationship to positive ones. By regularly writing down things that you are thankful for in your relationship, you can start to see the good in your partner and build a healthier connection with him/her.


Notice avoidant reactions

Avoidantly attached individuals should become more aware of their own avoidant reactions, such as distancing themselves emotionally from others or avoiding intimacy. By recognizing these patterns, you can work on addressing them and finding healthier ways of coping with your true feelings and needs in your relationships.




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Here's to healthy and secure relationships 🍷

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