Self-sufficiency and independence are important to you, and you often prefer autonomy over close relationships. You do want to be close to others, but you may feel uncomfortable with too much intimacy and keep your partner at a distance. While you may not worry much about romantic relationships or fear rejection, your partners may complain that you are emotionally distant. When in a relationship, you may be wary of your partner's attempts to control or encroach on your space.
Establish healthier relationships as early as today:
Besides therapy, here are 3 ways in which the securely attached could establish healthier relationships as early as today:
Engaging in joint and external activities
Avoidantly attached individuals may feel overwhelmed or threatened by intense emotions or close relationships. By engaging in joint activities that provide a distraction, such as exercising or pursuing hobbies with your partner, you can reduce intimacy anxiety and form a healthier relationship.
Practicing gratitude can help to shift your focus from negative thoughts and emotions about your relationship to positive ones. By regularly writing down things that you are thankful for in your relationship, you can start to see the good in your partner and build a healthier connection with him/her.
Notice avoidant reactions
Avoidantly attached individuals should become more aware of their own avoidant reactions, such as distancing themselves emotionally from others or avoiding intimacy. By recognizing these patterns, you can work on addressing them and finding healthier ways of coping with your true feelings and needs in your relationships.
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